LONDON (Reuters) - Award-winning sex blogger turned successful author Abby Lee has just about had her fill of dating introverted British men — so much so she is considering moving to New York to take a sabbatical from them.
Her book “Girl With a One-Track Mind: Confessions of the Seductress Next Door” has sold over 40,000 copies in Britain, and has been in the top 20 non-fiction paperback chart for the last 12 weeks.
The book catalogues Lee’s sexual life over a year — the one-night stands, casual flings and same-sex relationships — all of which are recorded in intimate detail.
But she has reached an impasse with the British male and has high hopes the American species will provide better mating material.
“I find Englishmen’s half-hearted approach to dating so tiresome,” the 33-year-old Lee — whose real name is Zoe Margolis — told Reuters in an interview.
“The only way Englishmen can relate to women is when they’re drunk. I’ve met some really open-minded guys in the U.S., where in England there is much more of a laddish, soccer culture.”
Lee rejects the suggestion she is Britain’s answer to “Sex and the City” author Candace Bushnell, who established a reputation for breaking taboos with talk of sex toys and intimate acts.
“The route to happiness in ‘Sex and the City’ was about making money and having a lot of clothes and shoes,” said Lee. “For me it’s not about materialism, it’s about finding the answers in yourself.”
Sporting a pierced tongue, Lee is as frank in person as she in print, arguing her attitude to sex has more do with her liberal upbringing than genes.
“My parents were hippies, who had a progressive attitude to sex. I remember being barely out of nappies and going on demos and marches and I was brought up to question how society conditions us to act and think in certain ways.”
She won the book deal after her blog — www.girlwithaone trackmind.blogspot.com — attracted millions of visitors and won the Best British or Irish Blog at the 2006 Bloggies awards.
As well as Britain, Lee has secured book publishing deals in five other European countries along with China and the U.S.
Her work is not only about the pursuit of carnal delights — she is almost as evangelic about sexual politics as she is about experiencing erotic pleasure.
“If I can start up a debate about sex and sexuality that is going to result in more progressive attitudes then great, though I’m expecting a lot of hate mail.
“The fact that I have been called a slut and my life described as sordid and shameless shows we’ve a long way to go and that’s why it’s important I do these things.”
Lee had wanted to keep her identity secret while writing the blog and book — she even had a different mobile phone to receive calls for her nom de plume — but that all changed when her name was “outed” by the Sunday Times.
“My entire social network suddenly knew the most intimate details about me and I had newspapers and photographers sitting in my front garden,” said Lee. “I can laugh about it now, but at the time it was horrible.”
Lee believes her outing will make it hard for to resume her previous career in the film industry and fears the loss of anonymity will change men’s perception of her.
“I’ve detailed my sex life in a very public way and that is going to be difficult for any man to deal with. It would be hard for them to have any privacy, but I’m prepared to be optimistic — I’ve got to be.”